Pleasure is its own principle – we seek it for its own good. Oftentimes, we’ll do things precisely for the pleasure. We only stop to think about the activity or issue if it becomes a problem: if despite its short-term pleasure it is detrimental to our overall happiness.
“Happiness” has traditionally been understood as long-lived and useful, often attained in relationships, and typically doesn’t lead to addictions or dependence. In contrast, “pleasure” has been short-lived, fast and fleeting, and can lead to addictions. In the abstract, we can probably see or even “feel” the difference, even when we don’t articulate it as a difference between “happiness” and “pleasure.”
It isn’t just a difference of words, however. There is at least one way to measure the distinction. Happiness is built on serotonin, a hormone produced by the brain that relaxes the body and calms the mind, provides a feeling of general satisfaction and contentmen...
Behind my house is a large patch of blackberries. Himalayan Blackberries, big and sweet, but with thorns and stalks that are big and stiff, too. Hacking them back is a chore, but there are sweet rewards, too. The last time I trimmed them back I really went to town. I jumped in and hacked and picked, hack-hack-hack, pick-pick-pick, hack-pick, hack-pick. You get the idea. When I came inside afterwards and washed the grit, grime and blackberry juice from my arms, I noticed how many scratches, cuts, scrapes I’d collected. And they even started to hurt! Surely, you’ve experienced something similar at some point.
Now, it wasn’t as if I had lost and suddenly regained the sense of feeling in my arms. I hadn’t applied a topical anesthetic that instantly wore off. What probably happened was that I was just so focused on the work (and the occasional berry-break) that I was able to unthinkingly ignore the scratches and snags. It also probably helped that I knew that the tho...
When I started my hypnosis practice it was kind of a joke to me. The two issues hypnosis is best known for are weight loss and smoking cessation. And those were two areas I had absolutely no interest working with.
Then I had my first quit-smoking client.
Wham! They quit, and both of us could see right away the drastic change and improvement in their life. They were happier, healthier, more positive, less stressed and less anxious. They were thrilled. Their spouse was thrilled. They smelled better, looked better, felt better. They walked away from our sessions a non-smoker for life, and they knew they would never go back.
And I was hooked.
Smokers have two things going for them that few of us have: clear, compelling desire to quit smoking, and the support of our culture, their families, and their bodies.
Smokers want to quit, and you can see it in their faces, hear it in their voices, see it in their fidgety limbs and distracted looks around the room. They want it so bad, but they also...
For one month, I am extending the "friends & family" discount to all first-time hypnotherapy clients. From the middle of October to the middle of November, every new client can book the first three sessions for $125. That is HALF OFF!